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Rapport – To Build Experience

Posted Monday, June 28th, 2010 by Bob

If you want to know the taste of a pear, you must change the pear by eating it yourself . . . If you want to know the theory and methods of revolution, you must take part in revolution. All genuine knowledge originates in direct experience. -Mao Zedong (1893-1976)


Some of my favorite things to teach in NLP are often taken lightly at first, until we explain how effective understanding these processes can be.

Take building rapport for example. It’s talked about by many people but most do not know how to build rapport, or to what extent rapport is effective in all areas of your life.

Rapport can make a difference in making the sale or not. Rapport is needed in starting good relationships, being promoted, getting good service, being understood by others, getting a fair deal, making others feel comfortable, being accepted, and more, MUCH MORE!

Knowing how to build rapport also builds self confidence and trust. When you know how to put others at ease…you feel at ease. Knowing how to build rapport gives you the freedom to go places and meet with people easily, knowing that you have the skills to communicate freely and with ease.

I know a lot of people who live in fear of meeting new people, and lonely because they don’t have friends. There are lonely people in your neighborhood. People that don’t know how to create meaningful lasting relationship and have an unhappy life because of it.

Sharing your life with others is one of the most beautiful feelings in the world. You can look around you and see people when they are falling in love. You can see the happiness so clearly you can feel it too. To deprive yourself of that just because no one taught you how to build rapport is down right awful.

I’ve heard that some people will sit and listen to financial advisors just to have some companionship… isn’t that sad.

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Guilty of Failing To Learn

Posted Saturday, June 26th, 2010 by Bob

You have been charged and found guilty of a hideous crime – Failing To Learn!

What will be your punishment – loss of health – wealth – happiness?

Well, you may never know really. Why? Because if you don’t recognize the fact that you are failing to learn, how would you recognize the punishment or outcome from that crime … er, I mean event.

But it’s not your fault … it’s your brains fault. You see, your brain is lazy. Or put in another way, your brain has learned to be efficient – too efficient at times.

Let me explain.

With the amount of information coming into your brain at any one time, some scientist say in excess of 2.4 million pieces of information at any given time, your brain has learned how to deal with all this information in the most efficient manor. And it’s brilliant really.

When a piece of information comes in through your senses, your brain codes it, locks it in as known and now anytime in the future will not have to analyze this piece again because it’s coded as “known” – saving time to deal with all the other millions of pieces of information bombarding your system.

How efficient is that!

Awww … but what if the information is not completely correct, you might be asking? (If you weren’t perhaps that’s another sign.)

Alas, that is how we catch the felon.

Pick a time … any timmmme … (in my best Sylvester the cat voice)

When you might have told someone how they could do something differently or better and got a negative response where the person says, “I know that”, or something similar. A response which seems to totally disregard your helpful suggestion.

Or worse, they argue that their way is the right way or the best way – even against all odds or common sense!

There before your very eyes lies an efficient brain. (Did Bob mean lies as in lying down or as in telling a lie? – Aren’t ambiguities fun?)

The very function that the brain uses in allowing you to learn more – also prevents you from learning too much.

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