Applying NLP in the bedroom – Who is the boss in bed?

Time and time again you read about the importance of not letting your pets sleep in your bed with you.

For pet lovers, like myself, I like having my cats sleep at the foot part of my mattress. These hairy children are part of my family. I

f you feel the same way and would like to have your dog or cat sleep with you without them interrupting you…read on….


According to Dr. John Shepard, Medical Director of the Mayo Clinic Sleep Disorders Center, 22% of their sleeping disorder patients had pets sleeping on the bed with them disrupting their sleep. Since this is a common problem, I am going to share with you some tips on how I trained my two kittens to leave me alone all night long and not wake me up in the morning.

Setting The Ground Rules

The first thing you have to establish is who is the boss in bed, you or your pet? Many people think you cannot train a cat, but I’ve trained my old cat after she was 4 years old not to go into the kitchen. You may be wondering why I didn’t train her sooner, but I was like most people and didn’t know I could until I had training in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP). After taking my first course to become a coach using the processes in NLP, I started to realize how I could apply what I learned to train my pet not to get up on my kitchen counter. People were always amazed how she would only come to the end of the kitchen’s hardwood floor and not cross over onto the tile.

When setting your ground rules, it is important to determine what is acceptable behavior and what is not.

Pets Are Like Children

Pets are very much like children, they need to know who the boss is and what the rules are. If you don’t take on the role of boss…they will. After you establish your rules it is time to implement your action plan.

The Carrot and The Stick Motivation

Like people, changing behaviors in pets is no different. People and pets alike are motivated by either the carrot (the reward) or the stick (the punishment). I’m not talking about hitting your pet, so don’t get your knickers in a twist. Acceptable punishment like time out works with pets, too. Pets love to be with you so taking away what they want will start to condition them into knowing that if they are to do ‘X’ behavior, the punishment will follow.

It is very common to reward your pet with a treat after they do something you like…this is the carrot. The same applies if you punish the pet for something they did wrong…this is the stick.

What Works Well With Cats and Dogs

After you set your standards of what is acceptable and what is not, then you need to determine what will work as a punishment for your pet. Remember to always reward your pet when they do acceptable behavior. Pets, like people, love to be praised when they please their owner.

Applying NLP To The Bedroom

Pets are smart; they will associate their behavior to the punishment very quickly. Apply the punishment you chose to deter them from interrupting your sleep.

About a year after my old cat passed on, I decided to get another pet. This time I got two orphan kittens. Within two months of taking them home they were lining up at the kitchen door at the edge of the tile and sleeping at the foot part of the mattress allowing me to sleep without interruptions. Whether it’s 6:30 a.m. or 10:00 a.m., they know who is the boss in the bed.

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