Low Self-Esteem – What Causes It And A Free Way To Overcome it

Talk about low self-esteem. Growing up, I was treated like Cinderella … before she went to the ball.

So often criticized for how I looked and acted, and as for my ability – nothing was ever good enough. 

I tried harder and harder to please people, avoiding any actions seen as wrong. Then, sacrificing my own values to gain acceptance from my mother and others, I repeated this pattern to overcome their obvious dissatisfaction with me. 

I believed it must have been my fault since strangers would also point out what was wrong with me.

Winning the approval of significant people in my life was my feeble attempt to find happiness. 

But unfortunately, I never found happiness because I wasn’t living up to my values – love, joy, contentment and, most importantly, peace of mind. 

Instead, I experienced considerable stress that affected my quality of life. It limited me in my career, prevented me from having normal relationships and most importantly… affected my health.

 It took time, but I eventually realized I would need to heal from this emotional pain and stress to reach the peace of mind I was searching for.

What Worked for Me And What Didn’t

Initially, I tried the traditional therapy route. However, when it proved unsuccessful, I decided to explore other options. 

Several people shared their experiences with me about NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) and how it helped them make significant changes in their lives.

I knew from their stories it was what I needed. This NLP process is based on changing unwanted feelings and behaviours. It’s about modelling excellence and applying that excellence to whatever you want to achieve. 

I felt these principles would help me start living a life filled with love, happiness, joy, contentment, peace of mind and return of my health.

Something extraordinary had happened to me during my coaching session. At the time, I couldn’t precisely define the new feelings I felt inside. 

I experienced newfound energy, and that felt exciting! 

Free At Last – A Prisoner No More

I soon began doing things I had once only dreamed about. Finally, after several months of consistently feeling different and no longer responding to the criticism of others, I was convinced that NLP really did work. 

It felt as if I had been released from a cage that, for years, held me, prisoner, inside myself. 

I became passionate about learning its processes and becoming a coach, helping people heal their lives and experience their own successes. 

This was the start of a new journey, leading me to uncover the real reason behind what causes low self-esteem or low self-worth.

Self-Esteem Lesson Created Understanding

Truly understanding the importance of living my life based on my own values has been an incredible journey. But where there was once pain there is now pleasure. 

For 20 years, I lived and based my self-worth on other people’s values. What they wanted me to do for them. Learning that was the lesson of a lifetime.

It’s Time To Take Action!

If you are grappling with similar issues you understand the importance of changing such destructive patterns. 

In recognizing these patterns, you may conclude that feeling this way will be a major barrier to your success. And your well-being. 

After deciding to take responsibility for my own success, I became determined to do what was necessary to overcome these issues by healing the pain inside. 

My healing started when I chose to take action.

From Being Coached To Coaching Others

After eight years of coaching clients to break-thru their issues, I noticed a common theme in my sessions. People struggle mainly from low self-esteem and put a high value on what others think of them. 

Most of my clients struggle with criticism from others, taking it as a reflection of who they are. Being criticized, abused or rejected is what causes low self-esteem. 

If you were never hurt from these issues, you would have a strong sense of self. You would also have plenty of confidence to do or be anything you desire.

If you do have an issue with your self-esteem, then now is a good time to do something about it. Something that works!

Start with this no-cost option first before signing up for coaching.

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