Here’s A Quick Way To Get Unstuck
“I don’t think much of a person who’s not working to get unstuck more today than they were yesterday.”
That’s a quote I stole and revised from Abe Lincoln who said, “I don’t think much of a man who is not wiser today than he was yesterday.”
I believe my version is more relevant in today’s world, don’t you?
There are a lot of otherwise smart people going around in circles and need to get unstuck. You may know exactly what I’m talking about.
Especially if you often find yourself asking wrong questions like, “why can’t I get ahead?”
Most of my coaching clients are stuck in some way, in their business, in their relationships with life in general. They’re doing the same thinking day in and day out, not getting ahead and not doing anything to change.
If you feel like you’re on an endless treadmill that’s one sign you need to get unstuck.
If you struggle to get out of bed in the morning rather than happily looking forward to the day, that’s another sign you need to get unstuck.
And I know this to be true because there was a time I knew those two signs very well.
Back in 1990, just before I discovered NLP, I was very unhappy and felt lost and unmotivated. I knew I needed to change something, because I was doing the same thing every day, day after day, and felt tired inside.
I went from being a very busy top selling real estate agent to not being able to get out of bed in the morning. Replacing the constant thought of how to help families find a new home was the constant thought of, “what’s the use.”
I had no spark left in my life, and nothing seemed to perk me up or make me happy.
I was just going through the motions of living; every day was just like the day before.
I had gotten comfortably numb.
Are You Comfortably Numb?
Comfortably Numb, like in the Pink Floyd tune where I had the feeling that people were looking at me saying, “Hello, is there anybody in there?”
And I would just nod to let them know I heard them, while the ending lyrics echoed in my head …
The child is grown
The dream is gone
And I have become
Ask, And You Shall Receive
OK, so you recognize you’re stuck, now what?
Well, try asking a simple question like, “what can I do to get unstuck?” Then start to refine your question until you get the right question.
That was the first thing I remember doing when I was stuck. I asked myself a lot of questions, and I kept asking until I got the right one.
Now you may think it seems too simple just to ask yourself a question, but, your brain, when asked a question, has to find an answer for it.
Warning! Never ask yourself a question like, “Why am I such a loser” or “why can’t I ever get ahead.” Those questions will only give you an answer that you’ve buried away in your subconscious from an earlier event in your life.
I know this for a fact because I had them too, and so do most all of my coaching clients. Those negative self-defeating thoughts are the first thing we get rid of before being able to move ahead with a successful process.
So, you have to ask yourself the “Right Question.”
What’s The Right Question?
I wasn’t thinking of a career change as much as a change to invigorate my life. I wanted to fling the covers off the bed in the morning and jump straight into the day.
So, I asked myself, “Self, what do I need to have to get up every day with the expectations of a Treasure Hunter, exclaiming – Today’s The Day!?”
And I didn’t just ask the question once and forget about it. I was serious. I wanted that answer. And I asked until I got the answer.
Now, you may not want to start your day so energetically, but you still need to ask the right question.
So the quickest way to get unstuck is to start by knowing what it is you have to do. And the quickest way to know that is by asking yourself the right question.
Because once your brain has the right question to work on, then it’s only a very short time before it gives you the right answer.
If you need more leverage to get yourself unstuck check out our NLP Life Coaching, contact us to discuss how it can help you.