Thanksgiving: 2 Personality Types – Which Is Yours?
Because tomorrow is Thanksgiving in Canada I was thinking about it over my morning coffee. I like to start the day with good coffee and good thinking time before the day gets too cluttered with all its external noise.
First of all, if you’re a Canadian and you’re reading this, Happy Thanksgiving!
And for those of you who don’t know, the Canadian Thanksgiving is in October while the American Thanksgiving is in November. This is due to the growing season being shorter in Canada than in the United States.
Thanks For Getting – Thanks For Giving?
Now, what started me thinking this morning was the actual name, “Thanksgiving”. Thanks or thank you is most always associated with getting or receiving. We say or should say, thank you whenever we receive something. Because we are thankful to receive.
To receive makes us feel good and therefore we are focused on the good feeling that we have been given. We are focused internally on our good feeling.
While some people focus internally on the good feeling of receiving, other people will say thanks or thank you for giving. Their focus is on the giver. The fact that someone gave them something makes them feel just as good, but their good feeling is directed externally toward the giver.
The difference between these two personality traits is neither good or bad. They are simply different. Some people have an internal focus and some have an external focus of attention.
Eat Your Turkey, Wash Your Plate (zen)
And it doesn’t matter if you focus internally or externally when someone gives you something. What really matters is being thankful. I.e. the turkey dinner will taste just as good whether you focus internally for receiving it or whether you focus externally on where it came from.
But am I really writing this about turkey dinner? Of course not, although I am very thankful when I get one. What I am really writing this about as you may have guessed is being thankful.
Regardless of where you live in the world or what’s going on with you, you have a reason to be thankful. You have things and people that you would miss if you didn’t have them. You have certain abilities and functions that if you didn’t have you would certainly miss.
And don’t get me wrong here, I don’t believe that being thankful means being satisfied. You can be thankful for what you have and still want more. As a matter of fact, I highly recommend it.
Want more happiness, want more freedom, want more friends and family around you, and want more money too. And be thankful when you get it.
Oops, I’m out of coffee, thankfully there’s another cup left in the coffee pot …