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Get the NLP Skills you must know for the real secret to uncovering lasting happiness in your life.

So, now that you’ve read the posts “Are You Taking These 5 Steps To Happiness?” I’m going to show you the NLP skills behind the 5 steps I previously pointed out.

And by understanding how to recognize which of the NLP skills are being used, and at what point, you can more easily uncover and use these NLP skills in the future.

Knowing about the NLP skills and knowing how to use the NLP skills are two different things of course. Many more people know about NLP than can use NLP.  And learning the NLP skills that give you happiness depends on how high your happiness value is.

How High Is Your Value Of Happiness?

Values are taught within the NLP Master Practitioner Training so you really ought to have the NLP skills taught in our NLP Training Online before taking the NLP Master’s training.

But here is what you should know about values – Values guide everything you do in your life, they are truly your guiding life force. And your values, combined with your beliefs, dictate who you are and why you do everything that you do.

What is also good to know is when you go against your values you will not feel good about it, and to the extent that serious diseases like cancer can be attributed to values conflicts.

Introducing The Gratitude Habit

Gratitude was Step 1 of the 5 Steps To Happiness where I asked you to write out three things you are grateful for each day for 21 days, and to do it every day without fail. Why?

Because using the process of writing down what you’re grateful for over a 21 day period uses habitual patterning; also known as Pavlovian response, classical conditioning in psychology, and anchoring from the NLP skills.

You see, the pieces of your personality are created by two methods, and two methods only. The second method is through habitual patterning, also known as NLP anchoring. It makes sense to use your natural process of personality creation to re-create a change you want, doesn’t it?

So given that, you can also see why this is a very effective NLP skill for change that you should have in your toolbox.

The repetitive behavior of recalling and writing down things you’re grateful for is also training your brain to look for the positive rather than the negative. A double whammy of goodness.

This step involves the NLP skills of using your sensory acuity – mainly visual and kinesthetic, anchoring, meta model generalizing, beliefs, strategies and more.

Because Journaling Is Dejavu

In Step 2 – Journaling, I asked you to write down one positive thing you did each day. That’s like recording a thought, just a brief moment in time. And then I pointed out that when you record a prior event in which you had a positive experience you get to relive that positive experience.

So, the obvious process involved when you start Journaling is the activation of your visual memory of a recent positive experience tied into your kinesthetic (feeling) response system to lock it in. This creates a positive see-feel experience that builds motivation, sorta like giving your brain gold stars.

This fires off your neuro-transmitters a second time for the same instance which builds upon the happiness habit through another channel.

This step involves the NLP skills of using your sensory acuity – mainly visual and kinesthetic, anchoring, meta model generalizing, beliefs, strategies and more.

Why Exercise Is Important

In Step 3 – I asked how much you normally exercised and what type of exercise you did. I also cautioned you to check with your doctor first before starting any exercise plan. Some people benefit from vigorous exercise and others more from yoga type exercise.

New studies are showing that just getting up and moving more throughout the day counteracts the long periods of sitting that are now found to be causing many health problems. Of course, the more you get up and the quicker you move the better it is for you.

Besides the fact that exercise keeps you in a healthier state of mind, it also teaches you brain that behavior matters.

At the age of 17, having polio and being paralyzed in bed, young Milton Erickson was expected to die. But, he used his visual memory to remember times when he and his sister would climb trees, play tug-o-war and other physical “exercises” to retrain his brain and body to move and therefore regained his ability to walk again.  Without  Dr. Milton Erickson we would not have NLP as we do today.

Physical exercise is kinesthetic and mental exercise is more auditory digital. Anyway, you can exercise and activate these two are an advantage to your future longevity and good health. Many health specialists are recommending mental exercises as a prevention for Alzheimer’s.

This step involves the NLP skills of using your sensory acuity – mainly kinesthetic, anchoring, beliefs, strategies and more.

If Meditation Gives Ah-Ha Moments …

In Step 4 – Meditation I pointed out that it helps our brain get over the cultural ADHD we’ve been creating by trying to multi-task, doing multiple things at once all the time. Meditation allows you to focus on the task at hand.

Meditation has an interesting effect on your mind, it’s similar to putting a car in neutral and yet gets you to your destination quicker.  Meditation allows your conscious mind to rest – which it needs – while allowing your unconscious mind to work on solving problems as it never tires or needs rest.

Here’s an interesting fact that I discovered years ago. When I was in the shower I would get very creative and come up with some great ideas, trouble was, remembering them!

I tried putting a mini recorder in the bathroom while I took a shower, but all I got was a recording of the sound of running water. I tried finding ways to write my ideas down…a lot of soggy pages with running ink. Stole my kid’s soap crayons and wrote on the bath wall, but it wasn’t ideal.

My point is, I got more creative in the shower than any place else but couldn’t take advantage of it. What was so different about the shower I wondered? And that’s when I made my big discovery.

When your mind is in a state of relaxation, in neutral if you will, the connecting of neuro pathways goes wild and therefore opens up for creative problem solving like the autobahn.

And that’s when you get those wonderful Ah-Ha moments flashing through your brain.

This step involves the NLP skills of hypnosis, sensory acuity – mainly visual and kinesthetic although auditory can be used effectively too, anchoring, meta model generalizing, beliefs, strategies and more.

How Random Acts of Kindness Builds Self Esteem

In Step 5 – Random Acts of Kindness, I commented that it should be an easy one, but that it wasn’t because we often get so tied up in our busy-ness that we overlook a very important part of being human, and that is showing kindness at random for no reason.

Random acts of kindness are just good for your soul.

Performing random acts of kindness is connecting to your values and beliefs. It helps build self-esteem, it helps you by focusing on others. In hypnosis terms, by being outside, rather than being inside focused on yourself and your problems.  It connects through sensory acuity by paying attention to others and the more you do this the healthier it is for you. You build the habit…hence it’s anchoring again.

Every time you do good things for others it forms within you the “I = good person”, which builds your self-esteem, your self-worth and gives you purpose.

This step involves the NLP skills of using your sensory acuity – mainly visual and kinesthetic, anchoring, meta model generalizing & deletions, beliefs, strategies and more.


So, as you may have noticed, especially if you have a mainly sameness filter, that the NLP skills that are consistent throughout are: sensory acuity, anchoring, meta model, beliefs, and strategies. Other NLP processes are at play as well, but the common ones are best to watch for and practice noticing. Always remember to have fun with NLP




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Bob Clarke

Hi I’m Bob Clarke, writer of most of these blog posts. I’m also the Co-Creator, with my wife Ronda, of the Most Comprehensive NLP Training and Coaching Program Online. Our purpose is to bring NLP to you, saving you time, travel and money.

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