2 Edges Of The Criticism Sword – Have They Cut You?
There are 2 edges of the criticism sword, one is instructive and the other is destructive.
Using criticism in an instructive way can help make your life more successful. But too often the razor sharp blade of criticism cuts too deep and the pain blinds us to the instructional wisdom.
Does being cut lead to cutting others? Meaning, do you cut with criticism because of the fact that you have been cut by criticism, and labor under it’s never healing destructive power?
(Have you read How To Heal From Years Of Criticism?)
But, Criticism Is Suppose To Be Helpful, Isn’t It?
As in the way John Boynton Priestley wrote …
“We should behave toward our country as women behave toward the men they love. A loving wife will do anything for her husband except stop criticizing and trying to improve him. We should cast the same affectionate but sharp glance at our country.”
John Boynton Priestley
Unfortunately, many people haven’t heard of or won’t remember J. B. Priestley. He was an English novelist, playwright and broadcaster with 26 published novels under his belt. Not bad having credentials like that I would say.
And during World War II he was a regular broadcaster on the BBC. And on Sunday nights through 1940 and 1941, he drew peak audiences of 16 million! Only Sir Winston Churchill was more popular than that with listeners.
So, being that accomplished, John Boynton Priestley obviously knew something about criticism. And that’s why I thought of changing his quote, but only slightly, and not in the way you might think.
Criticism Comes So Easy
Now I must admit that some people reading his quote would immediately criticize him and jump to the conclusion that he was sexist. They would demand that he change his quote at that level of thought.
But, having one level of thought that is the opposite can be just as dangerous as having one level of thought that is the same, wouldn’t you agree?
So, if you allow yourself to move off that level of thought by just a bit we can keep the importance of his thought process. And That is, we should have the same thought about ourselves!
Follow me by trying this, replace the word country with the word ourselves, so the quote reads this way.
“We should behave toward ourselves as women behave toward the men they love. A loving wife will do anything for her husband except stop criticizing and trying to improve him. We should cast the same affectionate but sharp glance at ourselves.”
Please take this with a warning. And that is, if you do not have a respectful amount of self-worth or self-esteem, then, this type of criticism might be doing you more damage than good.
If that is the case then you have three options.
- Do Nothing Say Nothing Be Nothing
- Get Ronda’s book, “How To Heal from years of criticism, insults, abuse and rejection”
- Sign up for some personal coaching
If you want to feel better about yourself then you must start erasing those hurtful feelings from your life. Because like a magnet, criticism has two powers, one pushes you away from and the other pulls you toward.