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Self-Esteem: And What You Can Learn From An Ordinary Snow Flake

Self-esteem is a term used to reflect a person’s overall belief in their own self-worth.

Typically people compare themselves to others that they have been led to believe are of a high or higher standard and place themselves either above or below that person’s position.

Low Self Esteem?

Low self-esteem is often started in childhood from criticism from others who point out some differences as defects. And over time, this illusion becomes part of their belief, so they take on the identity of a defective person. From this, they form a belief in themselves which creates low self-esteem.

A snowflake is an ice crystal formed when supercooled cloud droplets freeze and then fall to Earth.

Snowflakes do not judge themselves but are judged by the people who come in contact with them. Some people’s judgements of snowflakes last a lifetime, and others change their judgement depending on the situation. IE: Whether you have to drive in a snowstorm or you want to build a snowman, that will determine what you think of snowflakes.

What The Snowflake Man Said!

Yes, Virginia, there is a snowflake man … well, there was a snowflake man.

Self-Esteem Snowflake 1

His name was Wilson Bentley – and he was the person who assured us that no two snowflakes are alike.

Wilson was the first person to photograph a single snow crystal, which isn’t easy considering how fast they can melt. Plus, the fact that the year he did it was 1885.

After 47 years and 5,381 photos of individual snowflakes, Wilson made the comment that he had never seen two snowflakes alike.

And apparently, all these years later, with the latest in technology, scientists still agree that it’s extremely unlikely that two snowflakes can be identical.

I never doubted that it was true, any more than the fact that no two people are alike. Even identical twins can’t be absolutely identical, especially in their thinking.

Why Self-Esteem And Snowflakes?

So, in reality, a snowflake does not, in and of itself, make me happy or upset. It’s just a snowflake. I decide whether I become happy or upset. And like a snowflake, I am similar but different from others.

Self Esteem Snowflake 2

One snowflake isn’t a bad snowflake because it landed on the road, any more than another snowflake is good because it landed where I want to build a snowman. They are just snowflakes. Period.

And as the snowflake man proved, no two snowflakes are alike, and no two people are alike either.

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People have more differences than they do similarities. For example, did you know that some people notice the difference in things while others notice the sameness?

Which do you think our snowflake man noticed? Was it difference or sameness?

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