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Rapport: It’s The – You Like Me Because I Am Like You Technique

Think Rapport is just an NLP technique used insincerely to make people like and agree with you?

If you do, you’re missing out on many genuine and meaningful relationships.

Suppose you feel like an outsider, unable to generate or participate in stimulating conversations and spending too much time alone. In that case, you need Rapport to beat the loneliness blues.

Rapport should be used more, especially when building long-lasting, meaningful relationships, which is the ultimate goal.

It’s Not Blind Trust

Many people think of Rapport building as a gimmick used to fool people into liking and trusting you. The truth is, if you “make” someone buy something they don’t want, they’ll quickly return it for a refund and never deal with you again. (it’s called buyer’s remorse)

However, Rapport can be used effectively in your life and should be used as much as possible to create sincere relationships.

It is not only instrumental in helping you create and carry on a good conversation, but it’s also the essence of building a happy life.

If you’re in sales, Rapport can make a difference in whether you make a sale, but it is much more than that. Rapport is needed to start good relationships by making others feel comfortable and, just as importantly, by making you feel comfortable with others.

Imagine starting a conversation with anyone, anywhere, on the spot, without a hint of stutter, sweaty palms, elevated heartbeat or hesitation. That’s what knowing Rapport can do for you.

Rapport = Confidence

Knowing how to build Rapport builds self-confidence and trust.

When you know how to put others at ease…you feel at ease.

It also allows you to go places and meet people quickly without fear.

And knowing that you have the skills to communicate freely with anyone is like being released from a self-imposed life sentence of solitary confinement.

If you want to know the taste of a pear, you must change the pear by eating it yourself . . . If you want to know the theory and methods of revolution, you must take part in a revolution. All genuine knowledge originates in direct experience. – Mao Zedong

Rapport Conquers Loneliness

Many people fear meeting new people and live a lonely life because they don’t have friends. There are lonely people everywhere; perhaps you’re one of them.

Lonely people don’t know how to create Rapport easily and, therefore, can’t easily create meaningful, lasting relationships. Because of this, they suffer unhappy lives.

Sharing your life and being with others is one of the most beautiful feelings in the world.

Next time you’re out and about, look around you. You can actually see people when they are falling in love. You can see the happiness so clearly you can almost feel it yourself.

Depriving yourself of that happiness just because no one taught you how to build Rapport is awful.

I’ve heard that some people will sit and listen to financial advisors just for companionship… isn’t that sad?